Dating at your own pace

Dating should feel fun, not like a group project with a deadline. 🫶

1. Set your own speed. Some people want a date by Friday, some want weeks of chatting. Both are valid. If someone’s moving too fast, say so: “I’m really vibing with you, I just like to take things slow.” Anyone worth your time will get it.
2. Try Hoot Mode for more breathing room: chat anonymously and reveal who you are only when you’re ready.
3. Get out of your head. Drop the pressure to be perfect and just be curious about the other person. Connection beats performance.
4. Talk before you meet. Got Peck Pass? Hop on a voice or video call first, no number needed.
5. Pick a date that suits you. Want an easy exit? A coffee is short and sweet. Worried about awkward silences? A movie gives you something to talk about after. Already clicking? A drink keeps it relaxed.

Always meet somewhere public, and tell a friend where you’re going. More in our Safety Center.